Dependability turns relationships into safer places.
GRATITUDE
WHAT THIS MEANS
People relax around those they can predict. They say more, ask for more, and risk more, because they are not managing the possibility of being let down. That safety is created almost entirely by a record of doing what you said rather than by anything warm you express.
If someone close to you seems guarded, look at your record with them rather than at your intentions. Consistency over a few months does more than any conversation about trust.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
With whom do you feel safest because they are consistent?
MORE IN TRUST, LOYALTY & RELATIONSHIPS
- Throwing someone under the bus might save you today. But everyone watching just learned where you’d put them.
- Jealous of your friend? Use it as a map, not a weapon. It’s pointing at what you want.
- When you vouch for someone, you’re lending them your name. Only lend it to people who’ll bring it back clean.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.