Notice what you defend the loudest. Sometimes it’s the thing you’re least sure of.

Volume tends to track doubt rather than conviction. Things you are genuinely settled about need no defending, so they come out calmly or not at all, while the ones you are quietly unsure of get the full performance, because part of the argument is aimed at yourself. That is not dishonesty, it is what uncertainty sounds like from inside. It is also useful, because it shows you where to look.

Notice the topic that changes your voice this week. Ask yourself privately what you would need to see to change your mind about it. If the honest answer is nothing, that is worth sitting with.