Forgiving them isn’t a gift to them. It’s you finally getting your own rent money back.

Carrying a grievance takes daily maintenance, and the person it concerns contributes nothing to the upkeep. Letting go is not a statement that what happened was acceptable or that they deserve anything; it is a decision about how much of your attention stays committed to it. Nobody is obliged to arrive at that point on a schedule.

If you are ready, start by noticing how often the thought visits and what it takes when it does. Redirect one of those occasions to something of your own, and let the rest come later.