Stop fighting for a spot on the bench of someone else’s life. Pick people who pick you back.
GRATITUDE
WHAT THIS MEANS
Effort spent on someone who is not returning it can feel like devotion, and it is mostly a way of staying busy near a person. The arrangement is stable because your work maintains it, so nothing ever forces the question of whether they would come looking. Noticing that is painful, and it is not a failure on your part.
Stop initiating with one person for a while and see what happens. Put the same attention toward someone who already answers, and notice how different the ordinary contact feels.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Who have you been chasing who never calls first?
MORE IN TRUST, LOYALTY & RELATIONSHIPS
- Telling your parents “you were right about that” once in a while will make their whole month. It costs you nothing.
- Believe repeated behavior before believing beautifully explained intentions.
- Your grandpa’s story about the car he had in 1978 is a documentary nobody else can stream. Listen while it’s playing.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.