Most “rude” texts were just typed fast. Don’t add a tone the sender never recorded.

Text arrives with no voice attached, so the reader supplies one, usually matching whatever mood they were already in. A message written in eight seconds between two other tasks reads as cold or clipped, and the sender has no idea. Very little of this is intent. Most of it is a medium that strips out everything except the words.

When something reads badly, assume speed before malice, then check whether it matters. Ask directly and lightly what they meant. Nine times out of ten the answer is that they were walking somewhere and typing with one thumb.