Sarcasm is a shield. It keeps you from getting hurt, but it also keeps anyone from getting close.

Irony keeps everyone at a fixed distance, which is what makes it comfortable. Nothing said sideways can be used against you, because you can always claim you were joking, and that protection runs in both directions: it also stops anything sincere from arriving. Over time people stop offering you the serious version. They are not sure there is anyone behind the routine.

Try saying one true thing straight this week, with no joke wrapped around it. It will feel exposed for about a minute. Notice who steps closer when you do.