Expecting people to just know what you want and then getting mad when they don’t is a test nobody signed up for.

Hoping to be understood without saying anything turns another person into a mind reader and then penalises them for failing. It usually comes from the belief that a request you had to make does not count, that only unprompted attention is real. What actually happens is that they carry on unaware and you get quietly colder.

Say the thing out loud, even though asking takes the shine off it. A wish that was granted because you named it is still granted. Start with the smallest one you have been silently waiting on.