If a friend group needs you smaller to fit in, the bravest move is walking out at your full size.

Some groups have room for you only at a reduced size, quieter or less ambitious or less strange than you actually are. Fitting that shape works, and the cost is paid in the parts you fold away, which get harder to unfold the longer they are stored. Belonging that requires shrinking is rented rather than owned.

Notice which of your opinions and enthusiasms never come out in a particular room. If the list is long, try being the full version once and watch what happens. Leaving is hard, and being unknown by people who see you daily is harder.