Self-control is strength with a leash, and the leash is love.

Restraint gets confused with weakness, when it actually requires having something to restrain. Strength with nothing holding it is just force, and what determines whether power is safe to be around is not its size but what it is tied to. Love is the tether here, which means the limit comes from care rather than from fear of punishment.

Notice where you have more power than you usually admit: in a group, in a friendship, with someone younger. Ask what love would restrain there. Then hold back on purpose in that one place this week.