Forgiveness isn’t unblocking them. It’s unblocking you.

Forgiveness gets confused with access. People resist it because they think it means letting someone back in on the old terms, which is why the anger starts to feel like protection. Releasing what someone owes you is an internal transaction. You can stop carrying the debt and still keep every bit of the distance that keeps you safe.

Ask which part you are protecting: the boundary or the grievance. Keep the boundary as firm as you need it to be. Then see whether you can set down the running account of what was done to you, not for their sake but because you are the one holding it.