Sharing a room with your brother is annoying. It’s also a room, a roof and a brother.

Two true things can sit on top of each other without cancelling out. The irritation is real, the lack of privacy is real, and none of that changes the fact that there is a roof over both of you and a person in the room who is yours. Complaint and gratitude are not opposites. They are two accurate readings taken from the same situation.

You are allowed to find it annoying. Try holding the second reading alongside it this week rather than instead of it, and see whether the annoyance shrinks at all once it stops being the only thing in view.