Big changes get easier when you pick a date and tell one honest friend who’ll ask about it.

Intentions stay vague until they collide with a date and a witness. A change with no timestamp can be permanently postponed without ever being cancelled, which is why it can sit in your head for years feeling almost active. One person who will ask about it removes that option.

Pick the day, not the month. Then tell someone who is fond enough of you to follow up and blunt enough to notice if you dodge. You are not asking them to push you, only to make forgetting about it impossible.