If you need a different personality for every group chat, which one is actually you?

Everyone adapts a little between contexts, and that much is ordinary. It turns into a problem when the versions contradict each other, because then you are maintaining several people and none of them is actually being known. The tiredness that comes with that is easy to blame on something else. What is exhausting is the switching.

Find the two versions of yourself that sit furthest apart and move each a little toward the middle. Say one true thing in the group where you are least honest. Consistency costs something socially and hands you back a surprising amount of energy.