Lose two friends the same way and it’s worth asking what part of the pattern was yours.

One friendship ending tells you about that friendship. Two ending the same way is worth a look, not because you are the villain but because you were present for both. Some of the pattern will belong to other people and some of it will be plain bad luck. The part that is yours is the only part you can do anything with.

Sit with the two endings without deciding in advance what you will find, and ask what you did when things first got uncomfortable. If a habit shows up twice, that is the one to work on, quietly and without a verdict on yourself.