Your self-image is an old profile pic. You’ve changed; you just never updated it.

Self-image updates far more slowly than you do. Most people carry a description of themselves assembled years ago, often during a hard stretch, and go on treating it as current. The person in that picture was real once and is not the one reading this now.

List three things you believe about yourself and check each against the past year of evidence. Some will not survive the comparison. Ask somebody who has known you a while what has changed, since they can see it from outside and you cannot.