Your name gets said in rooms you’ll never enter. Give it good things to be attached to.

Most decisions about you get made while you are not in the room, based on what people say when there is no reason to flatter. That account is assembled from ordinary behavior over time rather than from anything you could say in person. You cannot control it, and you do supply all the material for it.

Be consistent in the situations you assume nobody is watching, because those are the ones that get reported later. Do what you said you would do, especially for people who can do nothing for you. Then leave the rest alone, since it happens without you either way.