Envy is annoying, but it’s also a map. Pay attention to where the arrow points.

Envy is uncomfortable enough that most people try to get rid of it instead of reading it. Underneath the sting sits information, because you only envy things you want, and you often want things you have never said out loud. The person is not really the subject. What they have is a rough pointer toward something you have been avoiding admitting you care about.

Next time it hits, finish the sentence quietly: what I want here is. Be specific, and separate what you genuinely want from what is only wanting to be admired. One of those is worth acting on.