The most urgent things in your life rarely come with a notification sound.

What pings is what someone else has scheduled for you. The things that decide how your life goes, the health you postpone and the person you have not called, make no noise and will wait indefinitely while you answer whatever beeps. Attention goes to the loudest thing unless you intervene.

Once a week, write down the quiet items nobody is chasing you about. Put one of them in your calendar as though a person had requested it. The trick is giving it a time, because silence never competes well against a screen.