It’s easy to fix everybody’s life in the group chat except your own.

Other people’s problems arrive with the emotion removed, which is why the solution looks so obvious from where you sit. Your own situation comes with history, fear and everything you stand to lose, none of which appears in someone else’s summary. Clarity about other lives is mostly a distance effect.

Try giving yourself the advice you just gave someone, in the same tone and without the qualifications. Write your situation out as if it were happening to a friend and read it back. The answer is usually already in the chat, addressed to somebody else.