Feel what is there, then decide what deserves to happen because of it.

The order matters. Feel first, fully and without editing, because a feeling that has not been allowed will distort whatever you decide next. Then choose, as a separate act, what should actually follow from it. Collapsing the two steps into one gives you a life directed by whatever was strongest that hour. Skipping the first gives you decisions built on suppressed material.

Make the two steps explicit this week in one situation that usually runs on autopilot. Let the feeling be there and name it. Then ask what deserves to happen because of it, which may be a great deal or nothing at all.