The sun doesn’t yell at the ice. It just keeps showing up until it melts.

Steady presence changes things that force cannot. Pressure and volume make people defend themselves, and a defended person changes nothing, while consistency without demand quietly removes the reason to resist. The work is done by returning, not by intensity in any single encounter.

With a person or a problem that has not budged, try lowering the volume and raising the frequency. Show up reliably and ask for nothing in a given visit. Give it more weeks than feel reasonable before you judge whether it is working.