Seeing everyone get engaged doesn’t mean you’re late. It means your feed has a lot of rings in it this month.

A feed is not a sample of the world, it is a collection of announcements. Nobody posts an ordinary Tuesday, so what reaches you is every milestone in your entire network compressed into one scrolling column, which creates the impression that everyone is arriving somewhere while you stand still. The distortion is structural, not a fact about you.

When the comparison bites, count how many actual people are in the picture and across how many years. Look at your own life on its own terms for a minute. That column is gathered from hundreds of separate lives.