In a screenshot war, the calmest message always looks like the winner.

Anything you type can be lifted out of context and read by people who were not there. Heat does not survive that trip well; what felt justified in the moment looks unhinged on a screen. Steadiness reads as steadiness no matter who is holding the phone.

Before you send something sharp, imagine it pasted into a group chat with no explanation attached. If that picture bothers you, rewrite it shorter and flatter. You lose nothing by being the plain one, and you keep the version of yourself you would want quoted.