Unbothered isn’t a personality. It’s a skill you practice on small stuff until the big stuff can’t find you.

Calm is not a temperament some people are issued at birth. It gets built from hundreds of ordinary moments where someone chose not to react and got slightly better at choosing. Acting unbothered while seething underneath is a performance, and performances wear out.

Pick a small annoyance that reliably gets you: the slow line, the passive comment, the driver who cuts across. Let one of them pass this week without the internal speech. Doing it where the stakes are tiny is how the capacity is there when they are not.