You don’t need to post a poll before every decision. Some calls are yours to make and yours to own.

Crowdsourcing a decision spreads the responsibility around and makes the outcome feel less like yours, which is a comfort now and a problem later. Averaging opinions produces something nobody would have chosen and nobody has to live inside except you. The habit also wears down your sense of what you actually want.

Take one decision this week and make it without consulting anybody. Small is fine to start with. Notice the discomfort, sit through it, and notice afterwards what it feels like to own something completely.