Nothing good is decided in a 3 a.m. text thread. Put the phone face down and let morning handle it.

Late at night your judgment is worse, the feelings are larger, and nobody involved can end the exchange gracefully. A conversation that would take ten calm minutes in daylight becomes hours of escalation you both regret. The hour is doing more of the damage than the topic is.

Decide now that anything difficult stops at a set time and resumes tomorrow. Say that plainly rather than going quiet, so nobody is left guessing. Then put the phone down and pick it up again once you have slept.