Your memory isn’t a video file. It’s a remix that changes a little every time you press play.

Remembering is not retrieval, it is reconstruction. Each time you bring a scene back, your current mood and everything you have learned since get stitched into it, and the new version is what gets stored. This is why you can be completely sincere and still be wrong about what someone said, and why an old argument can sharpen over the years without anyone touching it.

Hold your certainty about the past a little more loosely, especially where it has hardened into a grudge. If something still matters, ask the other person what they remember. Two imperfect recordings together get closer to the truth than one played on repeat.