The squeakiest problem gets the grease. The quiet one gets bigger.

Urgency competes for attention and importance does not. A loud problem announces itself and so it gets handled, while the quiet one, which may be doing more damage, has no way to reach you until it becomes an emergency. Most serious trouble in a life is the quiet kind that waited.

Ask once a week what you have not thought about in a while. The health thing, the conversation, the slow drift with someone you care about. Give one hour to the quietest of them, before it learns how to squeak.