Lift the camera fifty feet and today’s catastrophe turns into one small car on a long road.

Distance changes size. Inside the day, a single event fills the frame completely and there is no room left for the months around it, so the mind reports a catastrophe. Move the view back and the same event is one incident on a long stretch, which does not make it painless, only accurately sized.

When something feels total, ask what it will look like in a year. Then ask what you would say to a friend who was in it, because you can usually see their proportions better than your own. Feeling it fully and knowing its size can happen at the same time.