Ten people hyped your drawing and one guy shrugged. Guess which one you replayed in the shower.

Negative signals get filed with more force than positive ones, which means an accurate count and your memory of an event will not agree. Ten approvals arrive, register briefly, and dissolve, while the one shrug gets rehearsed for a week. The experience feels like a summary and it is a selection.

Do the count out loud when this happens. Say plainly how many responses there were and what each of them was. If the one negative response contained something useful, take it and use it, and if it did not, notice that you have been giving an hour a day to a shrug.