Plan one birthday entirely around what you’d enjoy, not what would look good in photos. That’s a revealing day.

A day arranged for how it looks and a day arranged for how it feels are rarely the same day. When you plan for the record, choices get made for the photograph, and you can reach the end of something you organised yourself without having enjoyed much of it. What you pick when nobody is documenting is a fair description of your actual taste.

Plan one day this year purely around what you would like. Ask what you would do if no one would ever hear about it. Then notice how far that answer sits from what you usually arrange.