Growing older means becoming responsible for creating traditions you once simply attended.

At some point you stop being the person who attends the gathering and become the person who makes it happen. The meal, the holiday, the annual visit: none of them occur unless someone decides, plans, and calls people. Recognizing that transition is the difference between traditions continuing and quietly ending after the person who used to hold them stops.

If something you value is fading because nobody has taken it on, take it on. Send the message, pick the date. It is less work than it appears from outside and it is the only way these things survive a generation.