Wonder asks what something is before asking what it can do for you.

Utility is a fast, useful question, and it arrives so quickly that it usually prevents the other one. What is this, what is it doing, how does it work, what is it like: those get skipped in favor of what it can do for you, and the thing is filed as a resource rather than encountered. Whole categories of experience disappear this way, including, often, other people.

Try asking the first question before the second, once a day. About an object, a place, a person. The delay is short and it produces a different kind of attention, one that people can feel when it is directed at them.