Forgiving them settles the bill. It doesn’t mean you have to keep eating at that restaurant.

Forgiveness and access are separate decisions, and treating them as one is why people stay stuck. Releasing the debt is something you can do internally, largely for your own sake, without it entitling anyone to a place in your life. The demand that they arrive together usually comes from whoever benefits from the second one.

Decide the two questions separately and in order. Ask whether you want to keep carrying this, then ask what level of contact makes sense now. You can wish someone well from a distance, and the distance does not cancel the forgiveness.