If you edit out your best parts every time you’re around someone, that relationship is charging you a fee.

Some company requires maintenance you only notice afterwards. If you consistently leave out the enthusiasms, the opinions, the parts of your life you are actually pleased about, the relationship is costing you something even when nothing unpleasant happens in it. Being smaller is easy to mistake for being polite.

Make a list of what you hide around a particular person and ask why. Sometimes it is their reaction and sometimes it is an untested assumption, and the second is worth checking first. Then try saying one of those things plainly and watch what comes back.