New person, same heartbreak? Your picker might need a tune-up.

Repetition across different people is worth being curious about, gently. None of it means you deserved what happened or chose it on purpose, because what draws you in usually works below the level of decision. Often it is something familiar rather than something good, and familiarity can feel a great deal like recognition.

If you want to look at it, start with the early signs you talked yourself out of. Not to blame yourself for missing them, only to learn what your particular blind spot sounds like. Named once, it gets much louder the next time it appears.