You can admire someone’s success without wanting their life. Check the whole package before you order.

Admiration tends to zoom in on the highlight and crop out everything around it. The person you look up to has hours, debts, pressure and relationships bundled in with the part you can see. You are allowed to want the skill without wanting the schedule.

Pick someone whose success you envy and sketch their ordinary Wednesday as best you can guess. Ask whether you would take that day. If some of it appeals and some of it does not, you have just learned which part you were really after.