Some of the most honest conversations happen in the car, because nobody has to look at each other.

Side by side turns out to be easier than face to face. Eye contact raises the stakes on anything difficult, and a car takes it away while handing you a shared view, a reason to go quiet and a known end point. Hard sentences come out more easily when nobody has to watch them land.

If something has been sitting in your chest, bring it up on a drive instead of across a table. Walking works the same way, and so does doing dishes next to somebody. Pick the version where you both have somewhere else to look.