Take the worst job on the chore list sometimes. People follow the person who doesn’t always pick the easy one.

Volunteering for the unpleasant task buys you a kind of standing that nothing else does. Groups watch closely to see whether the person with influence always ends up with the comfortable job, and once they notice a pattern, instructions start to feel like unfairness. Doing the bad one sometimes settles that question without a speech. It costs an hour and buys trust.

Look at the next shared list of jobs and take the one people avoid, without announcing it as a sacrifice. Do not make it so complete a habit that you are simply being used. Alternate, and notice who starts volunteering after you do.