You’ll understand your parents better once you’ve had to make rules for someone else. Give them grace now.

Rules look arbitrary from underneath and obvious from above. The moment you are responsible for somebody smaller than you, the curfew and the no-phones-at-dinner thing stop being about control and start being about a worry you can finally feel. Your parents are working from information you do not have yet: how fast things go wrong, and how little warning you get.

Take charge of a younger kid for an evening, by babysitting, coaching or helping with a cousin. Then pick one rule at home you resent and let it go uncontested this week.