The more you think you’re owed, the less anything feels like a gift.

Expectation and gratitude run on the same budget. Everything you decide is owed to you drops out of the category of things that could be given, so when it arrives you feel nothing and when it does not you feel robbed. The list of what you are owed tends to grow quietly, and every item added removes one possible good surprise.

Audit the list once. Pick three things you currently treat as automatic, a ride, a meal, a roof, somebody being glad to see you, and ask who arranged them. Just move them out of the owed column and see how different the same week feels.