Watch your parents dance badly at a wedding. You’ll want that memory more than a good photo.

The moments you will want back are rarely the ones that looked good. A parent dancing badly is a parent briefly unguarded, not managing anything, not being your parent at all for a few minutes. That version of them is hard to catch and impossible to pose for. A recording of it would mostly flatten it.

When the chance comes this week, watch rather than film. Family in the kitchen, a parent singing in the car, anyone enjoying themselves with no audience in mind. Let yourself find it funny, and keep the whole scene instead of a picture of it.