Every family contains stories told differently depending on who begins.

The same events come out differently depending on who is telling them. Not because anyone is lying, but because each person stood in a different place and had different things at stake, and memory is built around what mattered to the person doing the remembering. Families rarely have one history. They have several, running in parallel.

Ask a sibling or cousin for their version of an event you thought was settled. Listen without correcting. Holding two accounts at once is uncomfortable and it is usually closer to what actually happened.