You know you’re outgrowing a group when you start editing your good news before you share it.

Watch what you do with a win. If you find yourself trimming it, delaying it, or framing it so that nobody feels threatened, that edit is information about the room rather than about the news. A group that fits can hear you do well without needing it softened first.

Next time something goes right, notice the first draft in your head and who you were protecting. Tell one person the unedited version and see how it lands. If every version has to be shrunk, the problem is the audience.