Friendship becomes visible in ordinary consistency more than dramatic promises.

The evidence of a friendship is in the record, not the rhetoric. Anyone can say they will be there. What shows is who answered, who remembered the date, who checked in during the flat weeks when nothing was happening. Consistency is unglamorous and it is the whole thing, because friendship is largely made of small repeated contact rather than grand availability in a crisis.

Look at your last three months rather than your intentions. Who did you actually show up for, and who showed up for you. Then send one message to the person that record suggests you have been neglecting.