Umpires don’t call it for the louder dugout. Don’t make your choices for the louder friend.

A good official has a fixed reference point, and volume is not part of it. The loud dugout is applying pressure rather than information, and the job is being unmoved by it. The same shows up in a friendship group: the loudest friend is not the most right, only the most audible, and decisions that track volume hand them your judgement.

Before the next group decision, work out what you think while it is quiet. Then see whether your position moves when somebody gets insistent. Holding still in that moment is not stubbornness, it is just having a reference point of your own.