Losing well isn’t pretending you don’t care. It’s caring a lot and still shaking the hand.

Losing well gets mistaken for not minding, and it is close to the opposite. The handshake means something precisely because you wanted it badly, are furious, and are doing it anyway, which is what makes it difficult and what makes it visible to everyone. Performing indifference is the easier route, and people see straight through it.

Let yourself be as annoyed as you actually are, then handle the next two minutes properly: hand, eye contact, one true sentence. Keep the analysis for the car, where it belongs. What happens between the whistle and the exit is the only part of a loss you still control.