Nobody knows for sure what happened at Roanoke. Learning to sit with “unsolved” is a skill.

Certain questions have no answer available, not because nobody tried but because the evidence itself is gone. Holding that without filling the space with a confident story is a real skill, and it is the one that protects you from tidy explanations later. Not knowing is a legitimate conclusion rather than a failure to finish.

Practise saying that the evidence does not settle it, in the cases where that is true. Notice how uncomfortable it feels and how quickly people reach for a theory instead. You can stay interested in a mystery without needing to close it.