Wanting to be liked is normal. Building your whole personality around it is exhausting.

Caring what people think is standard equipment and not a flaw to be ashamed of. The cost arrives when every preference gets checked against the audience first: the music, the opinion, the clothes, the laugh. You end up running a constant calculation with no stable answer, because different rooms want different versions. The tiredness comes from the maintenance, not from the liking.

Find one thing this week you do purely because you like it, with nobody watching and nothing posted. A route home, a meal, an hour of something unfashionable. That is the part of you that does not need updating.