The feature you hate in the mirror is the one somebody else thinks makes your face yours.

REFLECTION

WHAT THIS MEANS

You see your face in pieces and everybody else sees it all at once. The nose or the gap or the ears you have studied for years is, to anyone who likes you, simply the part that makes you recognizable. Nobody has ever thought about it half as much as you have.

Try a week without the inspection: no zooming in, no checking the same angle in every window. If you want a real measure, look at photos of people you love and notice you have never once catalogued their flaws. Extend yourself the same ordinary generosity.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which part of your face would you miss if it changed?

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